RULES | WEBSITE | EVENTS
RULES - Rules for our events are listed in grey on this page.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS - WEBSITE - FAQ's regarding our website are listed in green.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS - EVENTS - FAQ's regarding our events are listed in light blue on this page
What's the difference between InviteOnlyParties.com and HerPleasureParties.com events? The main difference is that Her Pleasure events will allow solo men to the events restricted to a specific area so that coulpes can meet and mingle with them in a controlled environment. We will also be expanding upon the "her pleasure" part by incorporating elements at the events such as toys and different play environments. More to come on that as these parties evolve.
Invite Only events will continue to remain the same as they always have, allowing no solo men at the events.
Invite Only Event Rules
- CONSENT: Everyone must ALWAYS ask for consent before touching someone at our events. Even if you've had experiences with them in the past, situations change and so do people and their boundaries. Ask First.
- Invite Only does not release our guests' private information to other guests nor does Invite Only sell guest information. To contact an Invite Only guest, you will need to ask the guest directly at an Invite Only Event or contact them through our system if you are a Premium Member.
- If someone is making you feel uncomfortable and it cannot be resolved through polite discussion, PLEASE TELL ONE OF THE STAFF. The easiest one to spot at all times is our door person. Do not take matters into your own hands. Any arguing or violence will result in you being escorted from the event and not invited back.
- Couples must arrive and depart the event together.
- Please respect the venue at all times by keeping it clean and picking up after yourself. If you have an accident, please clean it up, and/or notify staff to help you.
- If you enter one of the open group-play areas to observe, we kindly ask that you whisper or do not talk at all.
- Please do not invade the personal space of others while they are playing in an open play area.
- Please keep your voice down outside and respect the neighborhood.
- Please also keep talking to a whisper in open play areas as chit-chat about your day can be a vibe killer for someone who is enjoying a fantasy moment.
- Invite Only has a no-tolerance policy for drugs or prostitution.
- No solicitation of business of any kind is permitted without prior written consent from Invite Only.
- Overly intoxicated guests will be asked to leave the party or will be denied entrance.
- Please check any and all drama at the entrance. Invite Only parties are a drama-free zone and our community members would like to keep it that way.
- Failure to comply with these rules will result in your immediate eviction from the event and you will not be invited back.
- If you see something, say something. Not everyone knows the rules, and it is up to the community to help educate new members.
- Invite Only provides safe spaces to enjoy adult company and activities. Invite Only is not responsible for lost or stolen items. You are partying at your own risk and that the venue, venue owners, Invite Only, and Invite Only staff is not liable for any issues that occur as a result of your participation in this event.
Frequently Asked Questions - Events
Q - What kind of parties do you throw?
A - We throw several types of events. Newbie Nights, Takeovers, and Travel Events such as resort takeovers and Full Ship Swinger Cruises.
Q - When will we get the address for the event?
A - For ALL of our events we email the address by noon on the day of the event to the email address you gave us. For paid events, only ticket holders will receive the address. If you paid for an event on the day it occurs and you purchased after 12:00 PM the address and any additional info will be emailed instantly to you once you complete your purchase.
Q - I've RSVP'd, why did we not get the email with all the info?
A - All of our emails are set up to go out automatically. If you don't see the email from us there are three possibilities: 1. You are checking the wrong email account. This happens all the time as people occasionally buy their tickets with a different account than the one they used when they made their profile. 2. You typed your email incorrectly when you signed up. 3. The email was sorted to a spam folder or some other folder that many popular email services are using these days. Assuming you typed your email correctly when you signed up or bought your ticket here is what to do: Click on your email's "search" feature (often looks like a magnifying glass), type in the word "inviteonly" (no spaces) and click SEARCH. This will pull up ALL emails we've sent you including any that went to a SPAM folder. Look for the email that will have a subject related to the event in question, it will probably be one of the first in the list. REMEMBER TO READ THE WHOLE EMAIL!
Q - What should we expect at your free NEWBIE NIGHT Meet & Greets?
A -Our free Newbie Nights are held in Chicago about once per month in the evening. They are held at hip nightclubs and lounges. As they are open to the public as well, they are fully clothed and do not offer any play on-site. We usually hand out wristbands as a discrete way of letting our group know who's with us. Since the lockdown ended we average 10-30 couples and occasionally a couple single females each time which varies based on the day of the week. Ages range from the mid 20s to mid 40s although all ages are welcome. These events offer a chill, affordable and low-pressure setting to mingle, flirt and if all goes well, something SEXY afterwards ;) We have a rotating set of venues to keep things fresh. Each one draws a great balance of sexy regulars and fun newbies so there are couples of all experience levels to chat with. Lately, it's been mostly very new couples. We always start early giving you time to get your flirt on if all goes well something more private and less clothed afterward!
Q - What should we expect at your monthly takeover parties?
A - Our Full-scale Takeover Events are held at private venues and usually have between 100-200 people attending. They usually sell out ahead of time and often have on-site play areas that are separate from the main mingle area (see flyer for each event regarding play). Purchasing your tickets ahead of time is highly recommended as the price of tickets goes up as the event draws near. The average age is mid-30s to mid-40s, but all are welcome! Some highlights: Several private & semi-private play areas on-site with real beds. fresh sheets, and staff to make sure they're turned over after each use as well as help monitor consent. We have by far the youngest and most height/weight proportionate crowd in Chicago land. We provide better venues that include upgraded lighting, sound, and whenever possible a quiet section for people to sit and chat. We look at every variable and affect the environment however possible to ensure the maximum enjoyment of our guests. For a more detailed description of an event visit our Event section and click on the flyer to be taken to the Event Details page.
Q - What is your refund policy?
A - We make this very easy and fair. Refunds may be obtained by emailing us more than 24 hours before the event starts. If you cancel less than 24 hours from the start of the event no credit or refund will be offered as our events always sell out and in holding your spot we turn away other paying customers.
Q - Where can we get one of those cool Invite Only shirts or booty shorts?
A - Our store is open now and has a lot of great options. Check it out here
Frequently Asked Questions - Website
Q - What is Premium Membership
A - Premium Membership allows you to view profiles of other members and use the email system to contact other members, auto-date matchmakers (like Tinder), and all of the other social media features of our site. Premium membership is a separate purchase from event tickets.
Q - What is "Auto-Date" used for?
A - Our Auto-Date feature is a match-making app that can be accessed from the main page or by viewing the "who's going" page for any event. The "who's going" page only shows the people attending that event. There are MANY more people available by using the app off the main page.
- You mark couples "interested" or "not interested" similar to other mobile dating apps like tinder etc.
- There are three options: "Pass," "Like" and "Let's Meet."
- "Pass" means you are not interested. No one but you sees the profiles you've marked "Pass" and the app automatically sorts those profiles to the bottom of all Who's Going pages and Search results so you never have to scroll past the profiles you're not interested in.
- "Like" will only let the other profile know you're interested if they also like your profile. It will also sort those profiles to the top of the Who's Going pages and search results.
- "Let's Meet" will send an auto-email to the profile letting them know you'd like to meet. This option will also sort these profiles to the top of the Who's going pages and search results.
Q - Is signup on your website required?
A - Yes - Sign up for a free profile is required to purchase a ticket or RSVP to any of our free events.
Q - Are face photos required?
A - No, but we do recommend you have clear, recent body shots of both people. Doing so will increase attention from people who may be interested in you. Conversely, most people will ignore a profile that does not have at least a few photos of both people.
Q - How can I make changes to my account?
A - You can edit your profile by logging in from a computer. A few basic edit features are available on the mobile site.
Q - Can I email other couples or view their profile and photos?
A - Premium Members can do these things along with other social media functions such as chat rooms, news feed, date-match etc.
Q - What is the difference between the ticket types?
A - All of these ticket types get you the same thing unless otherwise described in the ticket description on the order page. There is usually a significant difference for booking early.
Q - Do I have to purchase tickets ahead of time?
A - Yes. Our events typically sell out ahead of time, and either way we like to know who's coming ahead of time.
Q - Who sees my photos on my account?
A - The administrators of this site and Premium Members can see all of your photos except the ones you put in private "pass-key" or private albums. For these, you can give access to anyone you would like to share them with. Standard (free) Members can only view the default photo of the people who have RSVP'd for the same event as they have.
